I'm really struggling. None of my usual strategies are working and I'm barely coping. That's it. Nothing to add. Can't make this post even remotely entertaining. I just want to sleep for a few months and wake up in a different situation.
I'm really struggling. None of my usual strategies are working and I'm barely coping. That's it. Nothing to add. Can't make this post even remotely entertaining. I just want to sleep for a few months and wake up in a different situation.
what seems to help a little for me when i have such times, i check what sucks my energy,all of it,and remove one thing from that list for a while. setting free 5 % power to reroute it to the coping-stuff. can be anything, last time i just skipped wash-salon for 3 weeks. doesn't fix anything, just gives the extra nudge in bad times.
and if that doesn't help, stop coping at all and give yourself a little breakdown.throw some shit and clean up the pieces that break away, go on with the rest. If you can't avoid it,laugh(or spit) in it'S face and embrace it .
Thank you for the practical approach. I needed the reminder. I do these as well normally, but indeed this time I skipped the time-limited breakdown, so I should probably schedule it somewhere. As to what's sucking my energy, it's all existential. Until I manage to get out of that shit closet completely, I'm afraid that no other stressors I remove from my life is going to cut it.
not sure if thast would work in your case, but an old idea about those "in closet" situations is,to imagine you are a secret agent. you're hiding it from the others because your mission is to pass as one of them. so everytime you do it,you are not ashamed,you are proud. did help some friends. most used at chrismas time with the family of the spouse. wasn't a trans-issue tho,so don't know if it works.
That's a fantastic strategy, if passing as cis is one's goal. For me, I should just find the guts to rip the band-aid off and finally come out to everyone and not have groups of people who know and those who doesn't. My appearance has changed drastically enough that cis and straight passing are barely an option. I'm just a coward though :/
well,fear is somehow sticky,it needs a while to overcome. If your Appearance is allready telling, a huge part of that fear seems to have lost its power already. the rest will come in time. let's talk about it next chrismas,for comparision. :-)
Deal! 😁 Thank you for putting it into perspective like that. I hadn't seen it like that, and it actually really hit the spot. Thank you so much for the support. I'd be dead without it, no kidding. *hugs*